Sunday 13 July 2014
In this post, I am
going to give you the three methods on how to be successful in life.
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Imagining
you becoming successful. The more accurately you imagine your success, the
easier it will be for the rest of yourself to follow through. The same way Thomas
Edison
first imagined and invented first commercially
practical incandescent light.
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Dedicate a few minutes
every day to imagining your success. Imagine sitting like a king and swimming
in success. Savor the feeling of your success, and use it as motivation to
stoke the fire in you.
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Always cultivate a
healthy motivation when imagining your success. Know that successful people all
believe in themselves and their missions. Understand that other people want to be
just as successful as you do and your goal should not be to trample over them
to get what you want.
1.
Find
the goal of your life. Find and identify the things you love to do, the things that
gives you joy and satisfaction. Once you find and identify what you love to do
or the things that gives you joy and satisfaction, use this information to find
the purpose of your life or the objective of your life.
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Finding what you love
to do will give you motivation along the way. Imagine being forced to study
medicine when your true passion is computer science. Now imagine if Michael
Jackson’s parents forced him to go into boxing, what would have his life been
today? Or if Mike Tyson’s parents forced to go into singing?, his could have a
hell .How do you figure out a purpose or goal in life? It's different for
everyone, and for some it's difficult, but there are several ways you can try
to figure it out:
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Search for career
coaches online for advice or join some online career forums
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Try making a career
out of something you love. Whether it's singing or dancing, you're more likely
to be successful doing something you know you love.
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Try out several
different careers, remembering that even a less-than-falling job can help you
learn.
2. Lower your confidence. It's
a truism in business that you need to have high self-confidence to get things
done, but some people think, and for good reason that lower self-confidence makes
people more successful, for these reasons:
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Lower self-confidence
makes you pay good attention to critical feedback and helps you be more
self-critical. Like If you're convinced you're God's gift to engineering, you
probably won't be receptive to feedback, nor will you be able to criticize
yourself effectively.
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Lower self-confidence makes
you less narcissistic and less narcissistic people are respected more by
co-workers, and know that happy co-workers make a more successful team. It's no
secret that respect will make you successful.
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Lower self-confidence
will makes you work harder and prepare more. If you're not convinced you're
going to nail your presentation next meeting, you're likely to spend more time.
This is a great habit.
3. Define the meaning of
success as you see it. You cannot have success if you do not
know what it means for you and you cannot also have success if you don’t aim
higher. Everyone views success differently and using someone else's standard
for success is like eating another person's food and expecting to love it. Always
set clear goals and be realistic.
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How will you know when
you have achieved your goals? Your standards should be quantifiable, or else
you could spend your entire life chasing after a vague goal.
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For example, let's say
you want to be good at your job. You get a promotion, but you still haven't reached
your goal because you could always do better, right? You could always get
promoted even further, or make even more money.
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Instead, create
benchmarks: "My goal is to increase my productivity by 40% and only be
late for work four times per year." These are quantifiable goals that when
achieved, give you a sense of satisfaction, making you feel successful.
4. Set a good timeline
for when you want to achieve your goal. If you don't know when
you will achieve your goal, then it's hard to know whether you have crumbled or
failed. Give yourself a good timeline that is difficult but doable. Winning a
Tour de France from scratch in two years is not reasonable, but booking a
comedy gig in front of at least 20 paying customers probably is.
5. Identify the things, skills, material needed in order to achieve
your goals. If
you want to be a famous software developer you need to always learn and create new
codes, create usable software like video games, android apps, iPhone apps etc.
you need to have passion for software . This is identifying short term
objectives to achieve long term goals.
6. Identify the skills you can outsource. Outsourcing
is mostly all about time-management. You may think of yourself as a superman or
superwoman, but there are limits to your powers. Outsourcing certain less
essential tasks gives you more time to focus on the things that are absolutely
essential to your craft.
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Just use the last
example as a template; to become a great software developer, you need to spend
more time on learning and cracking of codes, creating of software because these
are the basic skills needed for software developer. But if you are lacking new
or latest programming codes, you can try to outsource them to an expert. This
is called working smart. Many software developers don’t create their own software;
they focus on branding software developed by unknown software developers.
Method 2:
1. Execute your small objectives and focus on
your main objective. Never
found useless reasons to procrastinate. Jump your headfirst into the challenge
and start chipping away. You never know what problems will present themselves
before you step into the arena.
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Break your goal into
small steps. Does the goal of starting an auto company seem impossibly unattainable?
Break it down into smaller goals. Focus on streamlining your idea; then focus
on getting funding; then move onto building a prototype, etc. If you have the
vision to attack your goal piece by piece, it's easier and less daunting to
execute.
2. Stay away from disturbance and distractions as much as
possible. Distraction
can be a thing that prevents someone from concentrating on something else, depending
on your perspective. But let's be clear: it's almost impossible to be 100%
focused on your task 100% of the time and distractions are okay in low doses.
But when your goals start taking a backseat to petty distractions, it's time to
sack or banish them.
3. Always surround
yourself with other people who are successful. When
you're surrounded with people who are highly-successful, it's encouraging. You can
get ideas good ideas from them, and they can even connect you with other
people. Surrounding yourself with successful people is a way to create a
culture of success. Be obedient to them because an Igbo proverb said
that if you worship a king, you will inherit it
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Study successful
people. Look around, who has the success that you envision for yourself? What
are they doing? How do they approach life? Ask them for advice; Model some
of your approaches around theirs, if possible. Knowledge is as free as it is
powerful in life.
4. Find a mentor. A
mentor is an experienced and trusted adviser or someone,
usually with a bit more experience than you, who knows the trade, offers
advice, and helps you in your pursuit. Behind many successful people are
mentors. Mentors get satisfaction out of knowing that their guidance has
literally bred success.
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A mentor will help
you:
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Troubleshoot. Troubleshooting is learning about how to
make ideas or applications even better. Your mentor can help you figure out
what you need to change in order to make your idea(s) better.
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Strategize. A mentor will probably have more vision than
you because s/he has been in the game before you, with more successes and
failures.
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Network. Networking is making connections with people
who have connections. You offer expertise, opinion, or opportunity to someone
in exchange for something back.
5. Trust other people to do their job. It's
very hard to be successful if you don't trust the people around you. Being
successful is partly about assembling an able team around you. If you can't
trust others enough to let them do their job, you probably won't succeed at
that.
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Trust in people
because trust can be an incredibly motivating factor. If you trust in someone,
they'll want to do well because they want to reward your trust in them.
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Trust in people
because you need to. As John Donne wrote, "No man is an island." This
is true. what he meant by this is that no man works alone. We depend on other
people, whether we like it or not. Placing trust in other people is a
necessity, not an option.
6. Gather as much information as you can. Listen, Study,
Understand, Learn and Repeat. Humans beings are amazing creatures because we
can look at the world, make intellectual connections, and use those connections
to make our lives. This is what information allows us to do. Never turn your
"learning switch" off. You never know when your flash of insight will
come.
8. Take
calculated risks. Successful people
think big and act big. Don't wait for opportunities to fall in your lap. Sniff
them out. Successful people make big investments in their careers, in
their businesses, in their education and all investments involve risk. Study
your risks, make sure the odds are in your favor, and take a leap. These
are the two calculated risks to consider:
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Partner with a
competitor. Whether you're rolling out back-end solutions to technology giants,
partnering with the competitor may help you pool your resources, motivate you
to work harder, and build new relationships.
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Lead, don't follow.
Leading the way can be dangerous. You're taking on the headwinds literally,
perhaps, or you're banking on an idea like yahoo or Google that someone has
already tried before. Summon up the courage to do something different.
9. Always solve problems.
No matter where you are or what you're doing, look around and try and think of
ways you can contribute. What are people struggling with or complaining about?
How can you make life easier for them in an effective way? Can you re-organize
some aspect of the situation so things run more smoothly? Can you provide a
service that fills a critical gap?
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Which problems are you
motivated to solve?
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Social
problems. Facebook
reinvented the way we interact with one another. Can you think of a similar
social problem that needs reinventing?
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Strategic
problems. Consultants like
IBM help other companies and individuals become more productive, profitable,
and prudent. Can you help someone else solve a strategic problem?
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Interpersonal
problems. Psychologists
and marriage counselors help other people navigate the complex web of personal
relationships that make up our lives. Can you help people better get along with
one another?
10. Use technology and don't let it use
you. Technology can be
incredibly powerful; it connects us with people around the world in the blink
of an eye; it computes algorithms accurately and quickly; it makes mundane
tasks, like data entry, easier and less painful. But technology can be a burden
if you let it. It can sap your energy and productivity, leading to wasted time
and opportunity
Method 3:
1. Be
persistent. What will define you is how you pick
yourself up after you've fallen. Don't give up. If your first attempt didn't
work, don't quit don’t you ever quit. Like Thomas Edison that
said that he failed 10,000 times but didn’t give up and now he is one of the
highest inventor in America and the world.
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Don't let failure
define you. When asked about his 10,000 failed attempts to develop a storage
battery, the American inventor Thomas Edison
responded: "I have not failed; I've just found 10,000 ways that won't
work."
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Learn from your
failures. Each failure is an opportunity to learn. If you make a mistake and
refuse to learn, you'll make that same mistake sometime down the line. If you
make a mistake and learn from it, you won't waste your time making the same
mistakes again.
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Don't make excuses.
Don't rationalize your failure by placing the blame on someone or something
else. Always accept when something is your fault. This will help you identify
what you need to change in order to get better because” an excuse after failure
is a refusal to make the situation better.”
2. Remember that success does not guarantee
happiness. Your success is equated with achieving your goal, but
don't assume it will always bring you happiness. Many people make the mistake
by saying that if they accomplish this or that, they'll be happier. Fulfillment
and satisfaction have a lot more to do with how you
approach life than with what you do in life.
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Value experiences over
objects. Human beings can be extraordinarily obsessed with money. It's strange,
too, because scientists think that experiences, with their memory, make us
happier than objects we can buy with money. Focus on making great memories
with great people along the way, and you should be happy.
3. Remove fear and doubt from your way of thinking. Focus on staying
positive in every situation. You will be surprised how effective you can be
when your thoughts are guiding your actions, not the other way around. If you
fail, don't be fearful about starting over; be happy as if you've been given a
chance to be even more successful.
4. Accept that life is
unfair. It's
just the fact. You can moan about it and wish that it were different or you can
go out there and do something about it. So stop wasting time about the
unfairness of it all and think how to use the situation for your benefit. Just look,
Newton could have complained about the apple falling down the tree could hit
his head. Instead, he identified the law of gravity and he is now known as the
father of physics.
Notes:
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Not everyone in the world will be happy for you and your
success. Some people are jealous. So, be prepared for them, and look past them
until you find the people who are happy for you and who support you in all that
you do.
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There is not any shortcut for success; it's just the result of preparation,
hardworking and learning from failure.
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Success does not just come alone, it takes consistency and
determination. Doing something once won't make a huge difference; it's when you
do that one thing many times over before you can achieve success.
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The key to becoming successful is finding one thing that you
love and mastering that one thing
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Trust yourself and believe in your abilities.
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. Always be humble because too much pride will always be your
downfall.
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